Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.
—Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture (p. 148)
Love’s a spell given to females to give them something to play with instead of power.
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There are people who show their care by making people feel like welcome, tended to guests. They love having people over and making things perfect for them, reminding them that anything they want is no problem. There are people who use humor to bridge the gaps that we can’t always reach in literal terms — they make people laugh when they need it most, and connect with them over things they both enjoy.
There are people whose love pours out in complicated, profound words. They could fill books on the way their partner looks when they just wake up, or how much they love spending time with their best friend. People love to cook for the ones they love, or do favors, or pamper them, or compliment them, or just hold their hand in silence. And none of these demonstrations of emotion are wrong, or bad. None are not worthy of being acknowledged and appreciated.
The truth is that there will be a million people in your life who actually don’t love you, whose dismissal of your feelings or tendency to ignore what you want are rooted in genuine apathy. They are everywhere, and make navigating our emotional lives even more complicated. But there are also many people who do love us, and who want to show us, but just may not be able to do it in the way we most want to hear. And it’s important to distinguish between the two, to look at the things people are actively doing for us and take account of the things we’re lucky to have in them. Because we are lucky to have love — in any of its forms — and no way of saying “I love you” should be forgotten about.
You and I who still enjoy fairy tales have less reason to wish actual childhood back. We have kept its pleasures and added some grown-up ones as well.
“How to fall in love with a stranger: Part 1”
When you’re falling in love with a stranger
make sure you make instant eye contact;
sometimes looking into a persons eyes
can send waves of curiosity through
their mind. With your eyes, show the
stranger that you’ve been through
enough to know what you want.
And when the stranger realizes
what it is exactly that you’re
looking for, reel them in
with your charming,
but broken smile.
Whatever life takes away from you, let it go
—The Four Agreements